In the last post we talked about how important self-talk or inner dialog is to your health. In this post we’re going to talk about how to permanently change your self-talk for the better.[featured-image single_newwindow=”false” alt=”Self-Talk Part 2″]Image from Dollar Photo Club Created in Canva[/featured-image]
Our self-talk or inner dialog, is birthed from the opinion we have of ourselves. For many of us, myself included, our personal sense of identity is distorted from reality.
Men tend to get their identity from their careers. Women tend to get their identity from their relationships. Think about the last time you met someone at a party. From men we hear phrases such as: I’m in sales or information technology or finance. From women, we tend to hear things such as: I’ve been married for 15 years or I’m a stay-at-home mom or the mother of 3 etc.
I’m not saying that either approach is completely wrong. Some stereotypes are useful. They help us to more quickly understand at least something about that person at a surface level. However, if we’re going to really get to know that person, we need to go a little deeper.
Why is this important? Because, we need to see ourselves accurately, if we’re going to have health promoting self-talk. We need to know who we are and who we belong to. We need to understand our true identity and worth.
Our true worth comes from God. We mustn’t get our identity anywhere else. In order to love ourselves well, we must understand our identity in Christ.
We should pay little to no attention to what others say about us. Jesus said he put no value in praise from man. (John 5:41) What Jesus cared about, was what God the Father said about him. God the Father said on at least two occasions recorded in scripture, that Jesus was his son, in whom he was well pleased. (Matthew 3:17, Matthew 17:5)
You can bet Jesus was listening carefully. We should follow his lead.
In order to get our identity in Christ, we must understand what it is God says about us and believe it, even if we don’t feel it.
Here’s a partial sampling of what the bible has to say about those that follow Christ:
Now there’s some food for thought huh? I don’t know about you, but these aren’t the thoughts that come to mind when I analyze my own self-talk. For our health’s sake, we need to start thinking differently.
Even if you’re not a follower of Christ at this moment, understand this: God doesn’t make junk; he makes masterpieces. (Ephesians 2:10) And, you’re loved more than you know. (John 3:16)
So how do we go about changing our self-talk? Scripture has the answers. God knows that our identity is under attack. That’s why we’re implored to set our minds on heavenly things. (Colossians 3:2 Philippians 4:8)
We must recognize that there’s an argument going on inside our heads. (Ephesians 6:12) One side says something like: “You’re a looser and you’ll never amount to anything. You may as well give up now.” The other sides says something like: “You’re precious, valuable, completely lovable and capable. You can do it.”
Because we have agency or free-will, we get to choose who or what voice we listen to. 2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us the key to winning this argument, is to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. When we’re thinking thoughts about ourselves, that are contrary to the thoughts in scripture listed above, we’re not taking every thought captive.
Most of us have tried and failed to implement positive thoughts about ourselves. That’s because we can’t do it in our own strength. That’s why we need to rely on God’s strength. (Philippians 4:13) We must believe what God says about us. That’s where we find our real strength. Jesus said that it’s the truth that sets us free. (John 8:32)
We must believe truthful thoughts about who we are and who we belong to. The truth is, if you’re a follower of Jesus Christ as I am, then your a child of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, (Revelation 19:16) (John 1:12) He’s the one that spoke the stars and the galaxies into existence. (Genesis 1:3) You’re an heir to his kingdom (Galatians 4:7) And, you’re more than a conquerer. (Romans 8:37)
This awesome God of the universe, created you with a specific purpose in mind. (Ephesians 2:10) He lives inside of you. (1 Corinthians 3:16) (Romans 8:11) His desire is to work through you, to accomplish his will for your life. (Philippians 2:13) And, he’s equipped you with everything you need to fulfill your purpose. (Hebrews 13:21)
So, stop believing the lie that you’re not enough, that you’re not good enough or that you’re not attractive enough. The matter has already been settled. You are all that, and a whole lot more.
We’re all born with a thirst to know our true identity and to find our place in the world. That thirst can only be satisfied through a life surrendered to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. (John 4:14)
If this sounds good to you, but it doesn’t quite make sense, it may be because you don’t know Christ in a personal way yet. Many of the truths we’ve discussed are spiritually discerned. (1 Corinthians 2:14) Once his Spirit comes to live inside you, a whole new world of understanding will open up to you.
There you’ll see how to start a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. This could just be what your soul has been thirsting for.
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